HALF-DAY WORKSHOP

BECOMING BETTER LOVERS

Spice things up in your relationship as you learn how to become better lovers with each other. 

NELSON - NOV 2,3 |

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CHRISTCHURCH - OCT 19,20 |

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Join me for a fun experiential workshop to learn new love and intimacy skills.

This isn’t your average date night… it’s a transformative experience that will bring you closer together, emotionally and physically! 

Why attend?

This short, fun and sexy workshop is designed for couples looking to enhance their love life, cultivate playfulness and bring novelty into the bedroom. Together, you'll dive into understanding each other’s deepest erotic desires, all while sharing a unique experience focused on increasing intimacy, sexual compatibility and mutual pleasure.

Whether you’re a new couple or have been together for years, intimacy, sex and erotic compatibility requires conscious effort to build and maintain. This workshop will give you the tools to keep the spark alive for the long run. You’ll begin to understand each other’s erotic blueprint, navigate your individual needs and desires, and learn to communicate them in a sexy, playful way.

Come learn, laugh and love more deeply as you explore and deepen your connection through pleasure. 

Learning outcomes

Get better at feeling and enjoying your own arousal. Then learn how to do that while staying present and connected to your partner without being self-conscious, tense or worried about how you perform.

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Gain practical skills for giving and receiving touch in an attuned and connected way. Learn specific touch techniques to enhance arousal and pleasure for both of you.

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Learn to communicate desires and boundaries in a sexy way that enhances intimacy rather than kills the moment, both in and out of the bedroom.

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Discover your unique Core Erotic Themes (CETs) and how you can use these powerful turn ons to unlock your hottest sex together. CETs are the strongest psychological and emotional factors for your arousal – knowing them will transform your sex life!

Meet the teacher

This workshop is created and led by Ilil Lunkry, an Intimacy & Relationship Coach, Somatic Sexologist and Sex Educator who has worked extensively with individuals, couples and groups from around the world, helping them navigate their own paths to greater pleasure, intimacy and fulfilment.

Drawing on the latest neuroscience research and somatic education modalities, Ilil’s work focuses on experiential learning. The skills taught by her go beyond just concepts; you will practise and learn to implement them in your everyday life. Ilil empowers clients to experience radical shifts in deep-rooted patterns and expand their skills and beliefs around sex, intimacy and relationships.

Somatica® Certified Sex & Relationship Coach
Somatica® Couples Trained
Certified Sexologist - American Board of Sexology
Certified Youth Sex Educator

WORKSHOP DETAILS

This in-person workshop for couples is limited to 14 participants. Private group bookings are available by request.

HALF-DAY WORKSHOP
New Zealand

Nelson: Nov 3 Christchurch: Oct 12, 13

Duration: 3.5 hours (10:30am-2pm)
Price: $50 per person

KIND WORDS

★★★★★

“So good – every couple should do this.”

We’ve been together for nearly 15 years, and it is safe to say things were feeling a bit stale in the bedroom…

This small group workshop reminded me what I loved about Tom and gave us a new sense of curiosity about each other. I felt like I was seeing him with new eyes!

We’ve continued working with Ilil privately and absolutely adore her. She’s professional and so passionate about her work. And she always makes us laugh - we’re so comfortable being our selves around her.

- Tom & Damien -

★★★★★

“These tools completely changed our sex life.”

We thought we were coming for a fun, saucy night activity together – but this workshop completely changed our sex life!

It is amazing how simple tweaks to your personal habits and communication style can change the game like this. We had so much fun learning about our core erotic themes, and how we can use them to boost each others arousal.

We 100% recommend this workshop for everyone!

- Lily & Adrien -

★★★★★

“I feel safe to explore these intimate topics”

If you want a coach that truly empowers you to make progress on your path of sexual empowerment and makes the tools and practices so accessible, fun and practical, definitely book in with Ilil.

Ilil is very engaging, a great listener, gives awesome reflections and affirmations. With Ilil I feel so safe to explore these intimate topics every time we talk.

So much gratitude!

- Jess -

Questions? I’m here for you.

  • The workshop will include a combination of theory and partnered experiential exercises.

    The focus in on working with your partner to learn, practice and fully integrate all the tools and skills covered in the workshop.

    Here are some examples of what you'll learn:

    • Erotic embodiment breath.

    • Touch techniques like feather and holding touch.

    • Relaxing into receiving.

    • Touching for your own pleasure.

    • Exploring your core erotic themes.

  • This workshop is intended for couples, but it is not exclusive to people in relationships.

    If you are not in a relationship or your partner is unable to attend, you can come with someone else that you feel comfortable with.

    The workshop involves partnered exercises and you will be working exclusively with the person you came with, so it is only available to book in pairs.

  • In future, this workshop may be available for singles. If that is something you're interested in, please let me know by leaving your details and request for a singles workshop on the enquiry form above.

  • This workshop might be a bit spicy, but it isn't a live sex show!

    Yet, please be aware that working on intimacy may touch on some sensitive and deeply personal topics for you. This may bring up some discomfort and triggers. If this something that you're worried about, please contact me before the workshop so we can talk about it.

    You will be paired with your partner or the person you came with for all exercises, and will never have to do anything that you do not feel comfortable with.

    All practises are going to be done fully clothed, working with body parts that are not sexual. As a group, we will have clear boundaries that will allow everyone to feel comfortable in this space.

    Consent and communication are a big focus of this workshop. We aim to create a safe, supportive and private environment for all participants to learn in.

  • Somatic intimacy coaching has a strong focus on hands-on, practical learning.

    If you were taking a dance class, you wouldn’t expect to learn just by reading a book or talking about it – you have to practice together to learn the moves.

    The same is true for intimacy; to learn, talking is not enough – you must do.

    This workshop will bring together deep conversations, educational components and hands-on practice, enabling you and your partner to deeply integrate what you learn, shifting old habits and unlocking a more fulfilling sex life and relationship.

  • Once we've had our 15-minute consultation and your booking request is accepted, you'll have 24 hours to complete the full payment.

    Once your payment is received, your spot in the workshop is finalised and you will be sent confirmation of your booking.

    Please note, since the workshop has limited space, we can't hold your spot for longer than 48 hours after the payment has been requested. If you need more time to process the payment, please get in touch directly to discuss this by emailing ilillunkry@gmail.com.

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